Shoulding All Over Yourself











I become suspicious of my self when the word “should” pops up a lot. It is a time when I begin to question myself. What is it that I really want? What do I really need? Am I doing things to please others?

Doing things because we think we should can lead to a disconnect between our personal values and our actions. Do you ever feel guilty about relaxing because you think you should be doing more? We create guilt and internal battles when we base our choices on what we should do.

At times I look to my cat, Ike, for clues on how to practice self-care and not succumb to ‘what I should do’. Cats and dogs alike make their choices based on their needs. They rest when they need to and play when they want. Ike lounges and enjoys life – as you can see he has prostrated himself on my yoga mat. Although, he has hindered my ability to do downward facing dog I appreciate his reminder that sometimes there isn’t a need for movement.

By listening to our bodies we can find that savasana is the yoga posture needed, or perhaps a vigorous vinyasa. Each day our body and mind requires different support. Your yoga practice can be journal writing or headstands depending on what your body and mind need. It doesn’t have to be what you think you should do, as that will wear you down overtime.

Live Light Practice:

Watch your word choice over the next day. How often do you make choices based on what you think you should be doing? Catch yourself and be conscious about your decisions. See if it is really something you want to do or something you think you should do.